Wednesday, September 29, 2021

Don’t make it about you, give credit where credit is due

(I wrote this post almost 8 years ago. I have been reunited with the person who inspired the originally ire and am shocked these things are still working for him.....although since he has not left the last couple places on his own accord maybe they arent working?)

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Don’t make it about you, give credit where credit is due

 

At some point I am sure we have all worked with someone who is a shameless self-promoter, even at the expense of others. While not exhaustive these are actual “career development”  tips I have received from people like this:

 

1.)    Make every compliment about someone else also about you. For example Tina did an excellent job at X looks like my coaching is working.

2.)    Show up early and stay late to every meeting when the crowd is thinner at the beginning and end you stand out more and will get chances to influence and make sure there is less opportunity for people to critique you. 

3.)    Compliment people via Chat on virtual meetings. It will make them feel good and it gets your logo there in Print for others to see the whole meeting. Especially effective if not a chat is occurring and it is a mix of leadership levels in the me

4.)    Don’t be the first person to speak, let other people speak and then value add or thoughtfully critic. Then constantly remind people how you either saved a ton of work or it was successful because of your suggestion.

5.)    Use forceful language to take credit for forgone conclusions. For example when you know a deliverable is in hand, casually say I am going to force\make\ this delivery by Friday. Or is there is harmony casually say I am going to get alignment on this issue.

6.)    Poll people for their ideas on making the world a better place and sell the best ones up the chain as your own.

7.)    Put as little of your decision’s in writing as possible until you can see if they have been successful then write glowing reviews about them to massive distributions lists set the tone of the email along the lines of rule #1

8.)    Constantly remind people of how tough your job is. When they say how is it going? It has been grueling but we are coming out the other side. I can’t believe how challenging it has been but we made it. This has been a longest week of my life but worth it.

 

The problem with advice like this is it works, at least it appears to work in the short term. Long term it has consequences that can erode organizations from the inside.

 

1.)    It robs the credit\appreciation bank of employees.

2.)    Missed opportunity cost to invest in future talent because the source of the success is misidentified.

3.)    Good people start to leave as promotions favor people not bringing in the actual results\doing the work.

4.)    People stop being vulnerable, sharing ideas and taking risks which is fundamental to healthy teams.

5.)    People who are close to the work and see the behavior know it doesn’t match reality and start to lose trust in leadership.

6.)    As this is primarily a manage up issue Senior Leadership develops a skewed vision of reality that leads to poor decision making.

 

People do eventually see this type of behavior for the fraud that it is. So don’t give into it. Be authentic and big enough to help build others. I promise the pie does keep getting bigger.

 

The problem can be difficult to spot though if you aren’t in a position to move through a company. Watch for signs of “making it about them” or not passing credit on to the source. These are signs of an insecure leader who is going to leverage your potential for their own gain instead of invest in yours. If you find yourself in this position it is better to move on sooner rather than later.

 

If you are lucky enough to have the autonomy to move about the organization one of the best ways to insulate your organization from this is to take a page from Gregor Hohpe and ride the elevator(or better yet take the stairs) from the penthouse to the engine room of your organization every day. Build networks, encourage dialog and feedback.  Remember the best way to encourage feedback is to act on the information you are receiving. Expanding this horizon will make sure you understand what is going on and have the model to ask the right questions when what someone is telling you doesn’t quite match reality.

 

Call people on behaviors. The saying the only thing needed for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing applies to your company culture too. Make sure people are getting rewarded for the work they are doing. Nothing can drain a company faster than unappreciated or slighted employees giving up.

 

Appreciate people. Develop people and don’t make it about you. 

Monday, September 27, 2021

Under the Lights

My son is on his second season of football and absolutely loving it. It is not a sport I ever pictured him playing for some reason but it is something he cant seem to get enough of. 

I am not sure the reason for it but seeing my kids play sports and hearing them laugh and compete is one of my favorite things in the world. 

I think I enjoy watching them play more then I actually liked to play. 

He got a chance to play under the lights for his first time last week. Which was a big deal since the game started around out usual bed time. 

Seeing his face light up as they took the field was priceless. 

No fear. No worries. Just excitement to be there in that moment and play. 

I hope that feeling never leaves his side. 

In a weird feeling I felt my dad watching that game through me. Like we were somehow together transcending time and space to fulfill what he would have wanted to do with me. 

My wife in a chair next to me. My daughter curled in a blanket in my arms. There was something so complete about that moment I am not sure how to put it into words. 


Monday, September 06, 2021

Movie Idea for Netflix

 This was my dream last night and think it might make a cool movie\series  concept. 

The opening scene is seemly unassuming dressed person goes into a gas station and puts a serum into the coffee and squishy stations.

The person then repeated this at another gas station and another  

The serum is a time released formula that makes a person go crazily violent 8 hour after consumption. 

The premise would be at the start of the episode you see security camera angles of people coming in and getting coffee and or other fountain drinks. Each gas station is in a different neighborhood so the people getting drinks would be clustered around certain demographics or backgrounds. An episode would be able to the impact of the people going to that specific gas station. 

Their is an element of timely ness to the story. The person who has  tainted all of these wells tips the police off to the plan that the whole of the city is about to collapse as the effects of the medicine take hold. They have 2 hours to find the people before the people go mad.


Tainted people subplots

Some of the people are kids

Some of the people are on pass throughs 

Some of the people are executives 

Some are Soccer moms 

Some are all ready killers 

Some are the first responders responding to this call,  police, paramedics

The violence's is different for the different people, some are suicide, some are crazy killing, some turn inwards in an petrified state.

Some people are caught in time before any event happens, some are not.

Sub story lines of race, how violence is perceived in different neighborhoods, the impact of violence of the community socio economic issues, how people with draw in times of danger, how people step up in times of need. 

The city is getting ripped apart can the stop it in time?