Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Delusional Damsels and Somethng About Realistic Dating Ecpectations.

"There are just no gentlemen left in the world"

"Where is my Prince charming?"

"Where are all of the good guys?"

"Where is all of the happiness that I deserve?"

Ok I need to briefly address the above statements. It seems as my peer group gets older people seem to complain more and more as we enter the season of love. I have to challenge the above assumption and causality. It seems that when woman recite and remember fairy tales they always picture themselves as the leading lady and they are simply getting what they deserve by receiving nothing less then Prince Charming.

They forget there are two people in these stories.

Anything less then a perfect princess would probably miss out getting the perfect prince.

Now I do not mean this to be harsh....but you are not Cinderella, Ariel, Jasmine, or Sleeping Beauty.

You may have to adjust your sights and expectations to fit the character you would be playing in the story.

Either that or just stop bitching to me because one no one really wants Cinderella, Ariel, Jasmine, or Sleeping Beauty. They are fake figments of imagination, idealisze versions of something that would easly grow old.

It is the reason that fairy-tales always end after the first kiss and yada yada all of the trials and sweat with the lie, "They lived happily ever after"

If they were forced to write those pages you would smile in your life again.

How are you going to write your own story?


Reggie said...

I try to strike a balance between Madonna (the virgin) as a mother, and Madonna (the 'artist') as a wife.

So far, so good.

Keri Oki said...

I totally had to buy the book. You are amazing.

Mags said...

Yeah, but sometimes we can write our own stories but the people we want to read them aren't interested.

Even if they aren't prince charmings...I'm just sayin'...

BORGHY said...

Where are all the Cinderella, Ariel, Jasmine, or Sleeping Beauty's???? :)

Rocketstar said...

This country has the "happy ending" disease (not that kind you deviant), the "white picket fence" disease.

Muffy Willowbrook said...

I learned a long time ago that I was never gonna be Cinderella, Aerial, etc.

And damn, I still got my prince!

cher said...

its all overrated. All of it.
Give me a guy who can maintain an erection and i'm set.

scargosun said...

I am SOOOOO not a princess so I was not expecting a prince...that is probably why I got one. ;)

Cheri said...

When I gave up trying to find that perfect man one walked into my life. Went through a lot of wolves in sheeps clothing to get where I'm at now.

Anonymous said...

I'm a big fan or organized chaos and a big mess. :) No, but seriously, if you can find someone who challenges you emotionally and intellectually, someone who makes you laugh and with whom you have sexual chemistry, and someone who generally shares similar values and lifetrack, you're good to go. It's about fit--does it just feel natural being with that person? Do you REALLY see that person as your best friend--and do you treat them like a friend--or do you impose expectations and expect them to be perfect? Can you expose those parts of yourself you're embarrassed about and feel safe? Do they REALLY love you because of who you are?

What pisses me off with all of these self-righteous women is that they assume there is some "right" or "desirable" way to be. When in reality, princes are like ken dolls--one-dimensional and BOOOOORING. These are the same women who will eventually "settle" because they just want to be pampered.

Anonymous said...

You need new friends... the ones who stop whining about not having a prince are annoying! I stay away from those kinds of girls!!

I've never used those lines above (in your post) they are annoying. I wouldn't want any guy to use those lines when talking about girls either.

Erin said...

Hell at this point I would take the court jester in any one of those fairy tales... heck... I would even take one of the dwarfs - although not sleepy - he's just silly looking :)

Yours Truly said...

But here's the other side of the coin: Some men really are looking for that perfect princess and actually get mad when we don't live up to that!

Dude, if I'm not living up to your fairy tale, then get f^ck out of mine.

I'm a non-practicing lesbian. Thanks.

Tara said...

I can't tell you how many women I know that are caught up in this fairytale even as an adult. I say, who really wants "perfect"? How boring is that? Deeper still, how realistic? Too many of us need to take a step back and rethink our values.