Death has a way of forever haunting the traditions of the past.
I think it is one of the reasons I always change-up traditions every year.
To honor the people that have gone by recognizing that the future is changed without them.
To honor the memory of them by recognizing the imprint of them.
That that event is different now without them.
To keep the same traditions after someone you love has died seems to dishonor them like we could always go on without you like you were never here....
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YES! You get it! I have this argument with my mother's family all the damn time. Mom died 12 years ago... and so they want to change nothing. It's ridiculous. Everything must be the same! We MUST gather on Christmas Eve... we MUST have the same meal every year... we must NEVER veer from tradition. It doesn't make any sense to me. If mom were here... things would be different because she liked to change things up. But since she isn't... we have to keep everything the same?
Needless to say I haven't been getting along very well with that side of the family.
Sorry for the rant in your box!
this is a good post - something I ponder quite frequently... death and life have that certain strangeness about them, there is not guide book and that makes it hard for everyone to incorporate their ways to deal with it all......
how are you by the way - it's been a while
Change is in the air.....
But it is not the same in our hearts, LOL. I hear ya man. So going to Pablo's isn't the same without me right?
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