Thursday, April 26, 2007

I am Sorry?

I'm sorry

But in a selfish prick kind of way. I noticed something about myself in the reason and way that I apologize to people for things that I have done. I noticed that when I apologize I do so mainly because of guilt that I am feeling rather then because I am being empathetic to someone else's feelings.

I do something. I feel guilty. I say I am sorry in hopes that someone else will help me feel less guilty.

But this is not an apology, an apology is supposed to show regret for a trespassing to another person, not be made to make ones self feel better about something.

In this sense I don't think I have ever truly apologized for anything in my entire life.....

And for that I am sorry...

Fuck I just did it again....

Are we ever truly sorry?

8 comments:

dawnmarie said...

I say I'm sorry Way too much. WAY too much. i apoligize for the weather. cause we all know I'm that powerful and I can control it. I'm ridiculous.

Mags said...

I also say sorry way too much-when I walk out of the doorway into the hall at work and someone else bumps into me-"sorry"

Why? I dunno...

But when I say I'm sorry for hurting someone's feelings, I truly mean it. Yes. I do.

SherBears said...

I only apologize when I feel that I behaved badly and truly regret it. Or if it's someone that I care enough for that it hurts me when I'm not the person they deserve. Otherwise, fuck 'em all.

Am I sorry that I went to my 10 year reunion without him. Nope! I had way more fun and stayed out way later than I would have.

I have a million more things I could say I'm not sorry for, but I think this is a post for my blog...hmmm....

Rocketstar said...

True "sorry's" are rare in my opinion. I think most sorry's maybe sympathetic, but not empathic. Empathy is a rare and difficult skill to foster... to actually feel others pain is a difficult skill to foster.

"Oh, sorry to hear that." "Oh, I'm so sorry."

Do people really care that my dog died, really?

Simply Jolene said...

I say Im sorry alot. I think because I dont want anyone to feel any kind of hate towards me. Sometimes I really mean the sorry and others I just say it to smooth things over.

Thomas said...

Brian, there's a book I think you should read. It's called, "Love Means Never Having to Say You're Sorry".

the108 said...

I never, ever apologize unless I mean it although I do tend to feel really responsible a lot for hurting people.

Something that bugs me is this: I tell someone that I'm sorry and they respond with, "Why? YOU didn't do anything."

Well, no... I didn't. But I still feel awful that you're going through something and it makes me sad and sorrowful to know how much you're hurting. And, I'm sad that I can't do something to fix it.

There really should be a lot mre sorrow in the world considering the state of things.

Little Sis said...

"But I still feel awful that you're going through something and it makes me sad and sorrowful to know how much you're hurting. And, I'm sad that I can't do something to fix it."

I feel the same way 108!